Public Declaration

I will declare myself Full time Franchise Trader by 31 March 2008.

I have been thinking too long these past few days....
and Today's Arthur's session made me the POWER to make this decision.

I will take the MOOR Indinine Spa bar to all corners of Singapore...
I will infiltrate schools, polys, universities, ITEs, households, condominiums, HDB flats, private estates, beauty salons, ALL OVER SINGAPORE and other countries to be exported, with this BAR...

A HUGE RISK to take...and i will make it.

Idealistic vs. Down to Earth

I wanted an ideal man to ....

1. Be in WBG biz with me
2. Be Tall (At least 1.75m)
3. Have vision about the future, like going around the World, third world nations to do charity works.
4. Really enjoy my dearest friend's company. To be with my group of close friends (That is why i always fall for guys in my close clique of friends)
5. To have lots of drive and passion for his career.
6. Be filial. Best if he really loves his mum and dad, and communicates with them well.
7. Be a leader. Be it in biz or any career. (Still preferably WBG trading biz)
8. No bad habits, like smoking, drinking, clubbing.
9. Be a vegetarian, like me.
10. Be clear of his goals and directions in life. Very specific, so he can guide me as well.

Now, what i want in a down-to-earth guy to...

1. Have passion for life.
2. Be there to adore and care for me. Be there whenever i need him. Really love me for who i am.
3. Friendly guy to know, so my close friend can generally accept.
4. Willing to change for the better. Not stubborn. Good EQ.
5. Be investment savvy. Knows how to manage finance.
6. A determined guy. Once he sets to start something, he will not give up and pursues to the end.
7. Healthy guy without much bad habits.( I can tolerate drinking, but not smoking and clubbing.)
8. Loves to hear me talk, appreciates whatever i do for him.
9. Understands his priorities in life, values and beliefs.
10. Have faith and hope for life.

These are generally the list... it will get longer.. ;) Will update this posting again.

I'm grateful to be.........ME

I am grateful to visit a great friend, love consultant, Beth @ her place, The Dating Loft.

Finally, someone is able to tell me what i have been suffering from the past 8 years.

I am a typical pisces, a perfectionist, who dreamt about the perfect prince charming, my knight in shinning armour. I dreamt of having my first guy as my lifetime partner. That was when i was still 16 years old. I really believed i could.

I made a wrong decision back then, to be with a man who doesn't know how to love, and made himself a miserable man desperate for love. I fell into the loveless trap and my dreams shattered.

An impactful sentence Beth told me, "I've never seen you happy all the times in WBG.. why?"

I know, i remember when was the last time i am happy. I was the happiest in B.T Band, in sec sch days. It was before my first relationship back in secondary 4. It was heart-breaking. Deep down, i knew i never got really happy after that.

I never forgived myself for my wrong decision. I was never truly happy since then. A choice to never forgive myself for my wrong move. I knew i was gonna suffer but i followed that wrong path. Even more undeserving of forgiveness. That was what i reaffirmed myself back then.

Today, i decide that i want to forgive myself and be truly happy again, like old times. Old people like Kumar, daniel, jason, they all missed the smily annie (haha, dun laugh ah, u guys!) . I am always better able to laugh and smile when i'm with them.

Beth gave me 3 homework.
1) To spend time with myself, and forgive myself for my wrong decision 8 years ago.
2) To list out what i used to like in an idealistic guy, compare with a list i have to also make, about having a down-to-earth guy instead. (Because i have to stop living in a perfect world and come back down to earth)
3) To really treat myself to something good. That i have always wanted and i have deprived myself of.

I did the 3rd first. Met up with Daniel and Kumar...really loved being with them. Makes me so relaxed and at ease. Kumar told me tat his mum's feeling much better taking Indinine while having chemotherapy. I feel so relieved and blessed. =)

My next blog will be on my list of comparison between having a ideal guy, vs. a down-to-earth guy. ;) (paused on franchise trading for a while!)

Hmm....what a day..

Hmm... waking up at 11am sucks. Suddenly i feel sad waking up so late these past few days of new year celebration..

First, went to Sinji's place to for new year lunch. Only see xiaoyin and huiting. haiZ i was kinda expecting a crowd of old sch mates, but its alright. ;)

Second, went shopping with Cyn for our mentor Longsheng's bday present. Tmr gonna give him! ;) But ...it didn't feel good to shop for the whole day afterall.... tired and sleepy, and alot of my franchise trading stuffs to do, haven't finish!!!

Third, went to watch Jay Chou's Kung Fu Dunk! Its an awesome movie. ;) Very funny too!!

Fourth, is what i regret most. Going to St james power station with KL, Cyn, pin, weijie, mingjian, tammy and some of KL and Cyn's taiwan friends who really wanna party. Damn, going to the clubs everytime reaffirmed that it's not the place for me to be in, BUT i still went...arGHhhHH!~!~!Not gonna step into it anymore for the next 1 year at least, until i forget the unpleasant experience of waiting for pple, getting squashed in the clubs, and drunk pple making a fool out of themselves...

Anyway, i left with pin halfway to catch another movie at cineleisure, CJ7. That's mad of us to wanna do that, but.....can u imagine? After you start to work, there's NO TIME to watch movies! Especially with our franchise trading biz, where got time?

A not so delightful day afterall, but, we're gonna celebrate Longsheng's birthday tmr anyway! So hope for the best! Sunday ends and Monday blues is coming....office hrs again... haizZZz... gonna quit soon!! Full time Trading and Franchise!!! =D

Faith kept me alive and going....

I seriously dunno what made me strong after these few days of mental torture... i supposed its FAITH.

Today we have a very fortunate session, to be invited to Nicholas Chia's place again, this time to bai nian. =) We sat ard at his european style living room and chat, and we started talking about Faith. He once told us there are 3 things man can't live without (The other 2 is left for you to think.. ) THe 3rd is, Faith. Without faith and hope, people live a hopeless life.

I guess this was what made me go Nicholas Chia's place. This is what i needed.
I've been thrown into a situation, which if i am the annie 4 years back, i would have cried on the spot and run away back home. I thank god for WBG, for making me a stronger person than ever before.

Within a short span of 4 days, i'm made to digest what i called "huge chunks of MEAT" (i am a vegetarian). I am now like, a vegetarian , trying to accept the fact the vege is not ard in my world anymore, and force to BITE MEAT, EAT MEAT, TASTE MEAT, every single day!!! And the portion gets bigger.. TOday is the biggest...

I met the lady for the first time today. I was in shock, but i kept my cool. She was suddenly brought down by him for KTV session. I couldn't bring myself to really talk to her, although i did. Just 4 days i smacked right into my face that she's there, quite pleasant looking, motherly feel...

I've got my faith to hold on to, Music is a good faith that i wanna pick it back up. I used to survive on music(band practices) during JC times, else i couldn't have made it.
For the past 6 hours just now, if not because of my strong hope to things will eventually turn out well.. else i would have broken down..
i really feel strong now...

I really feel good for him, just sad for myself for being pathetic.
I need to carry my faith with me and move through this tough lonely times.
I need to carry out my mission in life, so that my faith falls in place and gets maximised.
I need to move on to find the right guy of my life...

And i really loved him.

Personality Plus!

A great book recommended by Arthur Yap!

Understanding your personality, since its one of the few books that Arthur HIGHLY recommended, i started to read a little about it.. getting the book soon!!! ;)

I got a chance to do the test from pin's book, and realised that i'm quite a weird person.

There are only 4 personality types : Sanguine, Choleric, Melancholy and Phlegmatic.

Sanguine: Oh how the world needs the Fun Sanguine. The lift of joy in troubled times. The touch of innocence in a jaded era. The gift of humor when we're heavy hearted. The enthusiasm and energy to start over and over again. The creativity and charm to color a drab day. The simplicity of a child in complex situations.

Choleric: The firm control when others ar losing theirs. The cut of decision for foggy minds. The grip of leadership to head us to the good. The willingness to take a chance in a doubtful situation. The confidence to hold true in the face of ridicule. The independence to stand alone and be counted. The road map to life when we've gone astray. The urge to "take arms against a sea of troubles by opposing them."

Melancholy: The depth to see into the heart and soul of life. The artistic nature to appreciate the beauty of the world. The talent to create a masterpiece where nothing existed before. The ability to analyze and arrive at the proper solution. The eye for detail while others do shoddy work. The aim to finish what you start. The pledge "if it is worth doing, it's worth doing right." The desire to "do all things decently and in order."

Phlegmatic: The stability to stay straight on the course. The patience to put up with provokers. The ability to listen, while others have their say. The gift of mediation, uniting opposing forces. The purpose of peace at almost any price. The compassion to comfort those hurting. The will to live in such a way that even your enemies can't find anything bad to say about you.

i did a short online version at http://www.okcupid.com/tests/take?testid=9136838767038250566

The book version is more complete, of course. Get that book! ;) OR borrow from the lib!

I am a Melancholly

28% Sanguine, 50% Melancholy, 21% Choleric, 35% Phlegmatic

With the offline book version,

I am a Sanguine,

13 Sanguine, 5 Choleric, 12 Melancholy, 10 Phlegmatic (over 40 questions)

I have Melancholly strengths and Sanguine weaknesses.

i did the book version twice, online version twice as well.

Each time is almost the same. And according to the quiz, Sanguines and Melanchollies are complete opposites!!! No wonder i always find problems trying to figure out whether i'm extrovert or introvert, displaying different personalities with different groups of people...

It is almost IMPOSSIBLE to have such types...!!! That means, i'm rare. ;)

So this year 2008, i decided to really strengthen my melancholly strengths and reduce my sanguine weaknesses.

Pin's a true blue Sangunie-Choleric (she scored 16 S, 23 C, 1 M and 0 P!!!!), and with my Melancholly-Phlegmatic side, will complement each other in our Franchise Trading biz! ;) Arthur (S-C) and Mei Yap (M-P) are like this too! Too bad pin's a gal...hahaAHA~~* A fury lady with alot of drive in fact. hahAAHa~~*

I'm tough ;)

I think i'm really tough. On the outside i may look weak, but the inside, i am tough.

I got over it quite fast...still feeling empty inside, but feeling empty is also a feeling. But i still do love him no matter how he didn't think much of me.. i just wish him to be happy...so What's next after feeling empty? Actually...i dunno what's this feeling...not so empty as i anticipated...starting to feel, not so empty..something's filling up very slowly...i just dunno what's coming in...think its a sense of peace..with mixtures of anger still left in it.. hahaha~

What i am dreaming every now and then now, is of this perfect wedding, that i am led into the hall and there's this blinding white light... A man holds out his hands towards me, held my hand, and together, we walked down to greet the audience whom have came to our evening wedding dinner. A short moment, but its repeating in my mind all day and night now...
I am comtemplating of drawing out this image in my mind...This man.. i can't see his looks now..
How does he look like?

And also, a vision into the future where i see myself with another person, traveling all over the World to do Charity work. We do have a beautiful mansion, but we do live in huts for a few days, weeks, or months in Third World, play with children, build schools, do teachings...must have more to do..

I wanna learn music too, pick up my saxophone and clarinet back and get back in touch with my soul... That's how i lived so happily back in secondary days... Music, a language which transends all religion, race and culture... i'm looking forward to such a retirement plan...
A passion for life and
A vision with no end, and
A legacy to pass down the generations...

Coming Lunar New Year 2008

This is a good start to a Lunar new year... the end of a one-sided relationship, the start on a whole new level... i used to like this guy very much.. for 3 whole years i've been longing for his love. But, its unrequited love. I felt alot sadder than that time i confessed for the 3rd time and getting rejected again ( That's pure Courage).

I was still quite sad, this kind of sadness happened abt 4 years ago, which seems so familiar. This sort of "pity myself, live in bitter sorrow.." kind of thing.. and thinking about it, i know that i have to change. I cannot go back to the past and get sad and sadder like last time. This time, i didn't let saddness overcome me.

I went back home, and took out my POV cards. WoW!! All my few thousand of dollars into PoV courses didn't go to waste!!! Did a 3 card reading and here's what i got...

Holding on, Communication, Responsiveness

The first card: Holding on
I have been holding on to him for how long? 3 years only and it seems like eternality. Just short 3 years, but i can remember so much things about everything.. This is also the very first card i got when i first played the PoV card. Yes, i am using him to hold myself back from reality, from facing the fact that i have low self esteem, low confidence about myself, etc.

It is my attempt to live in the past. I want to live like this, secretly loving someone and not getting him as my partner, because i fear moving forward. There is a fundamental distrust in the process of life because of what has occurred, but if we don't let go we will lose our attractiveness, become dependent and move towards death instead of life.

If i choose to let go and move on, the other person may come back at a new level( a better friend whom i can really talk heart to heart to, which i never really did with him), or someone else may appear who represents the next stage in our lives. Letting go is the fastest ways to grow. We simply stop holding on to whatever attachment or fantasy we had; in this way we open ourselves to life and moce on, so that life can begin to unfold again.

Now, i wanna let go, and enjoy a much healthier and happier relationship, and i choose to do it this way. (Maybe its better for him to go with another gal now, because we're stuck at no where also lah..)

The second card: Communication
I really loved him as a friend. He's most of the time, there when i need him.
Communication can be used effectively to end separation and re-establish bonding where it has been lost.

If we commit to becoming experts in Communication, it can help in all our relationships. Good communication can end both power struggles and 'deadness' in relationships, helping us to connect with our friends, family, co-workers and partners.

Let go of the judgement and blame that sabotages your Communication (well, i used to really have bad judgement on myself, like i cant communicate to this guy i liked...)and your ability to express yourself. Your Communication skills can help you progress and change, no matter how others respond to you.

Receiving this card signals that some significant sharing is about to take place. This can lead you close to another person and can help you to move forward from your current position.
i hope that we can become better friends =)

The third card: Responsiveness
A gift that brings success.
By attending directly to another person, and to their needs or wants, we also open ourselves to Responsiveness from others.

This cards speaks of love and attention fiven with pleasure.... Responsiveness, in summary, is a generous, tender act, warmly given and you are about to experience this through giving or receiving or both.
(I seriously dun really know how to interpret this...i guess as time comes, i'll know what's it.. )

I wanna retire financially like Arthur Yap, within 4 years with a self-run organisation, go and do what i envisage to do. Charity works starting with South-east asia, Asia and the Third World nations...

My Lunar New Year 2008 resolution:
To wear more skirts!! Change my wardrobe!! 80% more time wearing skirts!!!
(Actually i'm just plain sick of wearing pants..i wanna be more feminie. That's all) ;)

Summary of Jet's session...

Singapore Youth Entrepreneur Group

headed by
Mr Jet Toh
came from a poor family
An introvert since young, very shy
Yet he achieve excellent academic results
became a financial controller at huge MNC at age of 26.
Venture into business and attained millionaire status before age 30.
Recently interviewed by Asia Top Investment and Franchise Magazine


A Fantastic session review with Jet Toh, we had a good mix of audience, with students from NTU, NUS, NYP, RP and ITEs...
Includes Q & A session as well..

Summary of what is shared:

Goals and Vision of the Youth Group:
Strategies on how,
We will be the Single, Most Powerful organisation in Singapore and Malaysia by 2008,
and by 2010, we will go into China, Philippines and India!

How will the economy affect us Youngsters in future?
With the F1 formula, impeding inflation, and Integrated Resorts coming up in the near future, what will happen to our career paths? For University, Polytechnics and ITE grads..

What is Mastery Quotient? How is it different from the skills that we learn in schools?
The 20 most powerful lifeskills that are not taught by teachers in schools...
How can we learn from Jet and his leaders in World Business Group?

What are the simple and easy steps towards building our own Franchise Business?
Leveraging on the basic business concept of Trading and Franchising, how can we build our business in Singapore?

Business is all about timing, and the Window of opportunity has come, and will go within the next 2 months...

Singapore will be sweeped clean within this YEAR 2008,
and we will move as AN ARMY towards India, Phillippines and China by 2010!